Why it's so hard to invest in relationships nowadays
Behavioral economist Dan Ariely explains how the age of online dating has made moving on too easy.
Ariely has already figured out how to design a scientifically perfect date and shared those tips with us. Now he's released a new video about dating. In it, he explains how the easy availability of dates means that, even if you're in a relationship, it's easy to keep looking around for someone better. That makes it hard to invest in the relationship you're already in.
According to Ariely, when you get to know someone, one of the first things you learn is that "they disappoint you in all kinds of ways," Ariely explained in the video. From afar, people look perfect. But when you get closer to them, you start seeing the flaws. "As you get into the little details of life, you start seeing wrinkles."
It's easy to notice your partner's flaws and then scan apps like Tindr for someone better. "All of those options look so wonderful," he continued. Online, "people only present their positive sides." You end up thinking "In one click, I could have a date with somebody else."
The problem is, even if you don't actually jump into a new relationship every time you notice a flaw in your partner, the knowledge that you could makes it hard to invest in the relationship. And a relationship "gets better when you invest in it."
And assuming you find the right mate and decide to get married, Ariely has some advice on how to introduce them to your parents in the video below:
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